Let’s say you go out with a woman and it goes well. You’ve got a good feeling about this one. You text her asking for another date.
No response. One day. Two days.
So where’s the text back?
Game Over. “Oh well,” you think, “on to the next one.”
But hold that thought. Before you start the dating game from scratch, it’s time to press the pause button and hear about what girls find attractive in a man.
It’s simple. Do these 10 things and before you know it you’ll have the woman of your dreams in the palm of your hand.
1) Confidence is What Girls Find Attractive
If you ask what girls find attractive, they will undoubtedly say confidence. Seriously, ask. But a guy can’t just automatically be confident.
There’s plenty you can do to help yourself look and feel more confident. For example, proper body language and eye contact are critical. Sit up straight with your shoulders poised.
Instead of crossing your arms or putting your hands in your pockets (both of which demonstrate insecurity), leave your hands free and available.
This may sound like a no-brainer but it’s huge: Look your date in the eyes, especially while she’s speaking. This makes her feel important and lets her know that you care.
This leads directly into…
2) Listen. No really, Listen
Actually, listen to your date. Ask questions. Be involved in the conversation.
If you don’t care about what she’s saying, well either she’s a bad match for you and it’s time to move on, or pretend to be interested and maybe you’ll end up genuinely intrigued.
What girls find attractive about this is that you’re in no rush to make the night about you. They like to know that you can be present.
And don’t listen just enough to be able to respond. Be an active listener. Take in what she said and ask questions.
Make sure all of your responses aren’t, “Me too!”
3) Make Her Laugh
Next to confidence, having a sense of humor may be the other most common response when you ask what girls find attractive in men.
If being funny doesn’t come to you naturally, don’t sweat it. Make that the joke.
It’s not about being a stand-up comedian. It’s about not taking yourself too seriously. It’s about being able to laugh together at ridiculous situations.
4) Keep it Classy
Chivalry isn’t dead. Show her you believe that with simple things. Open the door for her. Slide her chair out for her. Sit down after she sits.
Seriously, do this stuff.
They say “manners maketh man”. A woman wants to know she can take you anywhere and you’ll behave appropriately. She wants to know she can take you to meet her parents and you’ll say your pleases and thank yous.
5) But Don’t Enter Snobtown
It’s also important to find a balance between demonstrating class and sophistication and acting like a snob.
It’s totally acceptable to not have a clue about wine, as long as you demonstrate that you, if nothing else, behave appropriately while tasting a freshly uncorked bottle.
And if you’re some kind of wine connoisseur, maybe save that knowledge for date three.
6) If you Want to be a Groom one Day, Groom Today
Proper grooming is a huge part of preparing for a date. How you present yourself not only reflects how seriously you take this potential relationship, but it has the ability to help with confidence.
If you look your best, you’ll probably feel your best too.
You may think you know what girls find attractive but if you have a soul patch, my man, you do not know.
7) Share Your Goals
Women love a man who has ambition; drive. Maybe you live with your parents and are at a dead-end job.
Sure, that’s not a great look, but if you share your goals with your date she will be much more likely to forgive your current lifestyle, and it will help provide a personal connection.
Who knows, maybe your goals will align and you’ll find yourselves on parallel paths to success.
8) Pay For the Date
Some guys may read this and think, “Well yeah, obviously,” while others may read this and think, “That is so old fashioned”.
Regardless of what you think, suck it up and pay the bill. Let her protest. Do the little thing where you both go to take your cards out and let her try to put hers down but you hand your card right to the waiter
If she’s dying to pay, tell her she can pay for the next one. And suddenly, you’ve got a second date.
9) The Dating Game is Real, Play It
The beginning of this article was a hypothetical situation, sure, but the dating game is legit. If the date went awesome, shoot her a text to let her know.
Then give her some room. Some time and space go a long way. No matter how well the date went, what girls find attractive is someone who has patience.
Desperation shows, and it’s not a good look. Play the long game. Feel out the situation and if a second date feels right, let it happen eventually.
10) Fake It and Don’t Be Afraid to Ask for Help
This is perhaps the most important piece of advice I can give. Like so many people, I have social anxiety. I don’t know all that much about wine. I don’t have natural good looks. So I play the part.
Anybody can do this too. Anybody can take care of their looks and their body. But if you’re having trouble slipping into the “character” of a confident guy who’s great on dates, there are resources that can help. Don’t be afraid to reach out.
You have what it takes. You can hold the door for a woman. You can listen with eye contact. You can create and share life goals. Any apprehension stems from fear.
So fear not. Reach out today for that extra boost of rule #1: confidence.