How to Pick Up Girls at a Bar
We have to be honest with you guys, picking up girls at a bar is not as easy as in the movies.
Done wrong, girls will see you as a creep.
But fret not. It’s not the case if you know how to play your cards well.
Read on for our best tips so you can leave the bar with a (real, not fake) phone number of a girl.
1. Be yourself
We know what you’re thinking: “so cliché” (cue to eye-rolling).
You must think that the guy with the fanciest pickup line gets all the girls. Wrong.
Sure, think of an opening line. But if you’re thinking too much about delivering the perfect line (heads up: there’s no perfect line), you’re more likely to be nervous and tense.
Try this instead: say hello! Women are not this mysterious beast; they’re human beings.
A simple hello and a genuine smile will go a long way.
If she smiles back, even with just the tiniest movement of the lips, you’re in.
“Hey, so crowded tonight, huh?”
2. Lay off the dirty look
Yes, she looks ravishing in that tight, red dress.
But contrary to what your mates may tell you in the locker room, girls hate it when you treat them like a piece of meat.
That’s also the reason unsolicited and dirty compliments get you on the list of “creeps of the night“.
Look at a girl with interest and a hint that you think she’s gorgeous. But even if it takes your mightiest effort, avoid scaling her body inch by inch.
3. Drinks for each of the girls at a bar?
Although some girls will take advantage of the free drinks, they won’t give you their numbers.
You’ll end up looking desperado – and girls avoid desperate guys at a bar like a plague.
Pick a girl that really catches your attention. Smile at her from across the room, and then send her a drink.
If she’s with her girls, don’t send a drink to everybody – just her. Way to go to make a girl feel special.
4. Get your warm up in immediately
Try this the next time you’re picking up girls at a bar: don’t hang out nervously, eyeing every girl at every corner (see tip #2).
Instead, make a move with the first girl you see at the bar.
Say hi to the barmaid and smile to the girl waiting for her drink (in a non-creepy way, please).
The more you wait, the more you’ll overthink it. Overthinking never brings out positive results, guys.
So, warm up. You’ll feel more ready before your big game.
5. Relax and have fun
When you’re stressed out about it, your confidence will take a hit.
Relax. Like what we’ve said before, girls are just people.
Have fun, make conversations, even with complete strangers. Enjoy the music and the beer.
Not only will all these help you breathe easily, but they will also make you look like you’re nice and friendly. Girls like easygoing guys.
Plus, when you finally talk to that pretty girl, you’ll have taken out the creep factor since she’s seen you talk with everybody.
How about you? Do you have some great tips to pick up girls at a bar?
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